Two things about me; I’m not a numbers guy and I don’t like carrots. I don’t believe in chasing numbers nor that metaphorical root attached to the end of a stick to spur the jackass to move forever forward. I will not live my life that way and I don’t manage my team that way. No soul in it. Besides, carrots make my stomach hurt.
When I was twelve, I took my first martial arts test and my master instructor asked me, with a heavy Korean accent, “What is your goal here.” I was twelve and the only thing I could think of was to get to black belt. That was the ultimate goal, right? Get to black belt. When I told him my answer, he squinted and nodded with a deep, “Hmmm.” I thought I got the answer right. I was wrong.
I was focused on the time between tests and the quota of techniques required to pass each belt rank test and from that I calculated how long it would take to get to black belt. It was time, numbers, and goals. I was a jackass.
As I progressed through training, I began to see something. I realized that the “Do” in Tae Kwon Do, Judo, Hapkido, and Aikido is “The Way”. The way is the goal and the goal is the way. In fact, there is no goal, only the way. The stress was gone from cramming to learn techniques, skills, and academics for the next test and then next one. I began to appreciate the way and do things better for the intrinsic rewards of being, rather than outward achievement. After that, the “tests” were just another day and belt ranks were just a symbol of where I was along the way. I became an actual martial artist, rather than a good test-taker, chasing the next rank. I was being, rather than simply knowing.
The way is the goal and the goal is the way.
When we’re focused on a number, a quota, or a goal, we’re chasing after the extrinsic carrot at the end of some perpetual stick. Even if we reach it, the goal moves and becomes another thing to chase after next month. If we’re going to have a goal, then that goal should be to live the “way”, doing what’s right for all the right reasons, connecting with humans on a human level, being diligent in helping them to achieve their goals and enjoy what we do because we love doing it; not because of some number, some goal, or some other form of carrot. Do that and the numbers will come and the end of the month will simply be a stress-free Tuesday.
Similarly …
It’s not about getting an “A” or a 4.0 GPA; it’s about truly learning and understanding the material and being interested in the ability to think, contemplate, discuss, and play with that material. If you can do that, no test should scare you and you will no longer have to regurgitate memorized academics or plagiarize textbooks to fill in those essay questions.
It’s not about losing weight; it’s about living a healthy lifestyle, but in a way that you enjoy it. It’s not about joining a gym, unless you love reps and sets and staring at a flat-screen TV while you walk to nowhere. It’s not about buying the latest diet book, unless it speaks to your soul; something that you can and would love to live with. Maybe it’s martial arts; maybe it’s tennis or an outdoor boot-camp. Otherwise, it’s work; it’s something you have to make yourself do, because it’s supposed to be good for you. Humans don’t work that way. Logic and reasoning are a hard sell. We must do it for the intrinsic values, for the love of the way or we’ll all be just like the 80% of people who sign a gym membership and never use it.
Quit chasing carrots.
Rob Wilson